This evening my son asked me to start my Christmas wish list. He said he needs some ideas on what to get me.
The first three things I wrote down are books mentioned in the description for the class I’m planning on taking next semester. Each one is on Amazon for less than $10. I figure even if they don’t end up on the syllabus, those are the ones that still sounded like something I might want to read.
How do you make a wish list of things for your child to buy? He’s been saving his money, not for anything specific but just to save, and I don’t really want him to feel like he has to spend it on me. I encourage him to make me something, to paint a picture, to craft a photo frame, to write me a story. But somehow I feel like he has got it into his head that those kinds of gifts wouldn’t be good enough.
Where did I go wrong? Was I not grateful enough for previous handmade gifts? Did I ever say a single word to him that made him think I didn’t love the salt dough handprint he made in day care or the necklaces he made in kindergarten or the framed drawing of me paired with questions/answers he made with my friend’s help? Does he really, truly think that my gift needs to be purchased in a store? Have I not been fervent enough in encouraging what Christmas is all about?
I could be overreacting. I tend to do that sort of thing.
I wrote a small list, each thing no more than $10.
But, if we’re being honest here, the best gift he could give me is something that he made especially for me.
(Or a clean house. But, you know, let’s be realistic.)