On reading {Just Write/PYHO}

book nerdsThe first step in raising a child who loves to read is to read to the child when he is a baby. I read to my fetus while he was in utero. Well, I read my regular books but I read them aloud occasionally because I thought it might help.

As T got older, I read to him more and more. I read to him before bed almost every night. Our copy of Brown Bear, Brown Bear has seen so much love that it’s barely readable anymore. Pat the Bunny was destroyed years ago.

Now I have a 7-year-old who loves books. He enjoys time in our reading room just as much as I do (if not just a little bit more). He recreates scenes from his favorite books as he’s playing with his Legos.

This is all very well and good. Believe me. I wouldn’t know what to do if I had a child who didn’t enjoy reading. I love the evenings we spend curled up next to each other, me reading my book and him reading his.

The problem is that my son is reading at a fourth/fifth grade level and he doesn’t really want me to read to him anymore.

We’ve been reading Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire for months now. I was reading half a chapter a night (those chapters are long) to him. It was taking a lot of time, but we were slowly making our way through. I’d already read the first three books to him, and I was having so much fun enjoying the adventures of Harry, Ron, and Hermione with my son.

Several nights now, T has asked that he read Goblet of Fire to me.

Don’t get me wrong. Please don’t misunderstand me. I love listening to my son read to me. I love it a lot. I just get a little sad that I don’t get to be the one reading. I am much more involved in stories when I am doing the reading. It’s just the way I work.

When I was in college taking English classes that required lots  of reading, I had a best friend/roommate who was the opposite kind of learner. She comprehended much better when she was being read to. So, yeah, we were a couple of 19-year-olds doing our homework together where I would read aloud and she would listen. It worked out really well for the both of us.

So when my son is reading aloud to me, I am enjoying the experience more than the story. Things slip by and I just don’t get as into the story as I do when I am doing the reading. Even if it’s a book I’ve read several times. It’s just…different.

I don’t want him to stop reading to me. I don’t want to stop reading with him. I just want him to agree to switching off the responsibility of the reading. I want to enjoy the experience of being read to by my son, but I also want to enjoy the story.

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10 comments on “On reading {Just Write/PYHO}”

  1. Elaine A.

    My husband is the reader to kids around here. He read the entire Harry Potter series to my oldest. It was so cute. I like to read myself, quietly so I admire you for wanting to read to your so much!

  2. Jamie

    I love this, but they say read to them, read to them… What do you do with a child who has absolutely no interest in being read to? I would love to read to my little, and I try all the time as does my husband to no avail. The kid does NOT like coloring and he isn’t interested in being read to 🙁 I guess I just keep trying…

    • Roxanne

      I don’t know what to do in your situation. I’ve read some suggestions that say you should try just reading to the child while he is playing.

      • Jamie

        Yeah… I was more just saying that some kids aren’t going to be into an activity no matter how hard you try. Not that I’ll stop trying, but yeah.

  3. JanetGoingCrazy

    My son is 6 and is just a little above his reading level, but we have almost completely made the switch over and I had this exact same feeling last night. At Kindergarten, he gets to bring home one book per night to read for homework, but he somehow convinces his teacher to let him bring home three books instead. He was reading the third book last night when I had that pang of my baby growing up. My boy; however, does not let my mind drift off. He tells the story with such enthusiasm that I just can’t help but stay engaged!

  4. brittney

    My child doesnt like to read and hates it altogether I however am a big reader Idk what happened. What if yall took turns each night reading to one another?

    • Jamie

      Same thing with my husband and his mother. He is STILL not a reader (but has a master’s degree :)) and she reads constantly. It’s looking like my son will take after his dad in that regard and I love to read…

  5. Shell

    It took until about a year ago for my oldest to fall in love with books. I love the back and forth, reading to him and being read to- I don’t want to lose that, either.

  6. Mo

    I know what you mean. I can’t be read to either. My attention span is too short. I used to read to my daughter while I was pregnant with her as well and then every single night at bedtime until she just didn’t want me to read to her anymore. It made me so sad. I used to love that time together. But she enjoys a good book so it was all worth it!

  7. Cameron

    Oh, this. The scales are just starting to tip with my Kindergartener. I find that I don’t tend to cling to the baby days too much, but I am going to be sad about the reading when it finally stops. This much I am certain of.

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