I wasn’t sure what to expect when I started reading Diary of a Submissive for the BlogHer Book Club. I didn’t catch the Fifty Shades of Grey bandwagon, and I’ve never been into erotica literature. I read one of those bodice-rippers in high school and was not impressed. However, I do love memoirs. And Diary of a Submissive is the true story (although written under a pseudonym) of a woman exploring her sexuality and discovering she enjoys being the sub in a D/s relationship.
I can’t say I particularly enjoyed this book, but not for the language or subject matter. I didn’t like the main character. Although she discovers early on the sexually submissive part of her personality, Sofie never seems to really accept it. She’s always angry, glaring up at her dominant partner and always defiant when given an order.
It would appear to me that this is the choice she has made in her sexual life. She discovered that she receives some sort of pleasure from the abuse and the dominance, so why does she complain so much? At any point, she can turn it around. She can use the safe word. She can get herself out of the relationship. What is it about her personality that irritates me so? Is it that she is submitting herself to the abuse that other women have to risk their lives to escape?
I don’t understand the D/s dynamic. Even after reading a personal account, I still don’t know what makes a person willing to submit herself (or himself) to such a degrading position. I was hoping for an insider’s perspective on a side of society that I’ve only seen reflected in the media or through Hollywood, but was left wanting more. I’m left to wonder if this personal account was rushed to publication when the world began hungering for more erotic literature after the sudden popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey.
I warn future readers, this is a graphic depiction of the D/s dynamic. Reading a couple of chapters during a lunch break at work could result in an awkward interaction between yourself and the director of Human Resources. The title alone is enough to garner a raised eyebrow as she slowly backs out of your office. If only she’d seen the words on the page you were reading.
For a completely different review of this book, visit my dear friend Cameron’s blog. She felt a little differently about Sophie and Diary of a Submissive.
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***I was compensated for this BlogHer Book Club review but all opinions expressed are my own.***