You want to know what I think about Ms. Chua’s article, Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior?
Well too bad, because I’m going to tell you. If you don’t want to know, then just click the little X in the upper right-hand corner of your browser.
I think she’s pompous. Just like all the other mothers who think their way of parenting is superior to others.
I think methods of parenting are as diverse as the cultures on this planet, and one way cannot be said to be better than the other (unless, of course you are viciously beating your child, locking her in a closet, and refusing to feed her. I’m pretty sure I’m superior to you in that case).
My method of parenting works best for me and the kiddo. Should I write an article called Why Roxanne is a Superior Mother?
Maybe I should.
But, for now, I’m going to keep letting my kiddo have playdates. And he’ll choose whatever extracurriculars he wants. Because I’ve been forced into extracurriculars that I didn’t want to be a part of, and it was just a waste of my time.
And, although I will make him study and work hard in school, I will not berate him for getting anything less than an A. I will not call him stupid. Because I do care about his self-esteem.
And getting less than an A doesn’t make you stupid. I got barely a B average throughout high school. Nobody thought I was stupid. In fact, I was considered pretty smart (although maybe that was just because I wore glasses and liked to read).
So, Ms. Chua, you can keep raising your daughters any way you prefer. Because that is your right. But please spare us your pompous attitude that Chinese mothers are superior. Because what you are really thinking, is that you are superior. And what gives you that right?
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